Be sure to use lubricant without regret for any penetration – with a finger, a toy or a penis. There is no natural lubrication in the rectum, unlike in the vagina, and if you don’t give a damn about discomfort, then those very internal injuries are definitely not needed by anyone. Apply the lubricant to both the entire surface and the inside of the penis. A silicone-based lubricant is generally recommended because it dries more slowly, but a recent blind study found that many people like water-based products even better. Check which one is right for you and remember that water-based lubricants are easier to rinse off your body and wash off your sheets. Vaseline, oil and greasy creams are not suitable – they destroy the latex of condoms.
However, the very first approaches to anal play can be started without a man at all. Take anal beads for beginners – this is a chain of gradually increasing balls, choose silicone and solid ones. Sequence of actions: relax, one ball inward, relax, another ball, relax, slowly pull the beads outward, enjoying the sensations, repeat the input, increasing the number of balls by two, pull again – and so on, until you have mastered the entire size ruler. Or do not master it and understand that this is not for you. If it turns out that you are hurt, disgusted, or does not turn on at all – this is normal, we cross out anal sex from the list of preferences.